What a time to be alive! Every waking moment is
displayed all over social media. People from far and wide have been able
to connect with us which gives them front row seats, watching how our
lives unfold. We are our own worst enemy because we are giving our
followers the rope to hang us. This was all good and well when 'things'
weren't so complicated. However, life as we know it, is forever evolving
which is putting immense pressure on individuals today. This indirectly
affects relationships, work environments, sporting activities and the
most crucial one of them all, our thoughts and opinions of ourselves. We
are puppets being controlled by what's pushed out for us to read, see
and believe. I think to myself "Is this the life you would live if it
wasn't for social media and public pressure?"
I'm guilty of
it, just as you are who are reading this. I often find that I am
comparing myself, one way or another to the next person on my news feed.
We have been groomed to want bigger and be better. To achieve greatness
and never settle until things are top class. REALLY! How shocking is
that? A recipe for disaster! That failing is not an option and that we
compete to win. Yes, victory is sweet but the life lessons, growth and
mental strength gained is beyond a better reward than first place when
training or studying.
"NEW YEAR, NEW ME"
It's brilliant to have ambitions!
It's fantastic wanting to be better than your former self.
BUT being realistic and honest with yourself is far less stressful.
The question is, how many of your 2022 goals were not achieved? Have you sat with yourself and reflected on your actions to identify why this happened, or simply strike it off and start the year on a new slate. I don't think that is proactive, to be frank. That gives yourself no idea of what areas need attention for self growth. This is where it's easier to put a filter on our own thoughts, emotions and weaknesses, as well as pictures instead of working on the core issue.
early January and I've read many men and women's "New Year goals", it's
more of a 'who has a more ambitious list' really. While reading them, I
felt the guilt overpowering me because I haven't set any goals for
Then I stopped and reminded myself that I'm not less than someone who verbalizes what they intend to do, nor what they have done.
Over the years, I have achieved many goals on the list
and failed at some too. Reflection has allowed me to harvest my thoughts
and eliminate a lot of negative ones, people and situations which may
have causes for goals not achieved.
sit here, with the year ready to hit the fast lane. My goal is to remain
my authentic self and not feel the pressure of social standards to live
and conform to what is expected of us. I want to carry on doing what I
love because I choose to, not because I feel like I have to prove to
anyone that I can run faster or lift heavier weights than the person
next to me.
I hope, that when you look back on your list, if
you've set your 2023 plans out. That you set them with real intention
and not because you are listening to some influencer.
2023, I plan to be exactly who I really am, and that's ME!
Yours in Running,
Educator from Cape Town
Age group: Open
Comrades Marathonby Lauren Kupferman / Oct. 03, 2022
The race that nearly cost me my life.