Dont beat yourself trying to fit into someone else's box.

Being relatable or trying to be like someone!!
It's a Very fine line to begin with and can be blurry, when being hard on yourself!

For the general public who are out on Social media looking for someone to relate to. Take these simple questions into consideration...

1. Does the person you are trying to relate to work a 9-5pm job? Which has the stress and admin that your job gracefully gives you. . .
2. Does the person who you are trying to relate to have the luxury of having slow mornings, have the ability to train at convenient hours in the day?
3. Does the person you are trying to relate to have responsibilities like you may have, be it children or a side hustle to make ends meat?
4. Does your person constantly show the "ups" and portray a happy and easy lifestyle?

If any of these are yes, I can assure you, that you are bound to be disappointed with yourself along the line.

A saying that we have all heard "You cannot compare apples to oranges" is completely true, yet we fail to apply this to ourselves. I myself would love to have extra hours in the morning to train and not have to rush off to work. I would love to have the luxury of training during the day when it suits my schedule, allowing my body to perform at optimum levels. Unfortunately, life isn't always going to give you what you ask for. Instead, I show gratitude to the life I am blessed with. The ability to do sport when I can and the honor to represent the ASICS Brand in the capacity that allows me to. For that, I BELIEVE, is my own success.

When I look around at people who want others to relate to them, I often think to myself, "HOW?". I used to be one of you, I would beat myself up because I didn't have half the lifestyle they portray on social media. I had to do a lot of self development and growth to eliminate my thoughts on relating to those people. Now, I have found people who have and live a similar lifestyle to myself. This simple change in thought process has subconsciously taken pressure off me and allowed me to enjoy my sport and lifestyle so much more.

Don't get confused by receiving motivation from people who are always "high on life" with trying to be like them.

Don't get me wrong, there is absolute joy in feeding off someone's positive vibes, but never get lost within their lifestyle that it consumes your happiness. We all have different goals and ambitions in life. Find your person who you can honestly relate to and let them help you become a better version of yourself, WITHOUT costing you your happiness, passion for sport and real balance in life.

If there is one thing I can assure you of, it’s this. The life you live, that you may feel is hard and unfair. Someone else would snatch it up in a heart beat.

Appreciate your life, rejoice that your body is able to perform at the ability it can, while you work that 9-5pm job. Seek motivation when you are at an all time low, but never feel discouraged by the 'Glits and Glamor' that is put out for the world to see on Social media.

Everyone has thick doors to their home. There is a saying, If everyone had to put their troubles in a pot, you would grab your own and appreciate what you have.

Live your life, don't seek reassurance from unreliable sources. Forever do what's best for your body and mind. After all, your body is a temple and you need to protect it at all costs.

Yours in Running,

written by

Lauren Kupferman

Educator from Cape Town

Age group: Open

My Disciplines
Half Marathon 10k Functional Training Strength Training